Showing posts with label betrayal. Show all posts
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Monday, February 28, 2011

The Best Revenge Against a Sociopath

What do you think is the best revenge against a sociopath? 

One can lay awake nights plotting and planning the ultimate revenge, coming up with many creative versions of delicious fantasies, but in the end there would be no satisfaction in bringing the plan to fruition.  Instead, one would only find themselves reduced to being on the sociopath's level, and that is a place none of us want to go!

Revenge won't bring closure.  Revenge keeps you stewing in your juices and that is right where the sociopath wants you!  Why drag it out?  Why continue to be a victim by letting the sociopath remain in your thoughts?

It would be so much sweeter to make a clean break and move forward, but you cannot move ahead if you are busy getting even.
When I worked with a group of girls that had recently been removed from an abusive home, I repeatedly counseled them as to the best method of revenge.
As Arthur Schopenhauer said, "We can come to look upon deaths of our enemies with as much regret as we feel for those of our friends, namely, when we miss their existence as witnesses to our success." 
The best revenge against someone who has worked so hard to derail you and destroy you?  A life well lived.  There are few things they hate more than to see someone happy and that is just what you'll be if you put all of your energies into living your best life. 

How have you moved ahead and lived your best life?